The unpredictability

I am 24 and yes, I haven’t decided about my future yet. I haven’t decided what to do, where to go, where to live. I am not aware of the ideal lifestyle one should have. I am clueless about my career and my other plans. I have few plans in the back of my head, but they ain’t firm enough to be ever implemented. So what? So what, if I am not aware of my next life decision. There are many people like me. There is nothing wrong in not knowing what you have to do.

Instead of wasting half of the life, planning and failing in the pursuits, it is better to live your life unplanned. I am a firm believer in destiny. I know something good will happen. The negativity of the judgmental people around me will never stop me. It will never make me sad and depressed. And if I ever feel low, I will think about the worst that could happen to me, and then compare it to the present situation and be thankful to the Almighty for giving me such a beautiful life. Instead of wasting my life planning, I will start with little steps and preliminary goals and achieve them. Happiness is just a frame of mind, your own perception.

In the midst of…

And then she slowly walked away with a heavy heart. Few things don’t change. Few situation repeats itself. The story remains the same. The character changes. This is life. It was difficult for her. She had no fear of ridicule. But someone who loved her and observed her silently could feel the change. She was wearing off day by day. She was losing herself.

Was it all futile?

It took me some time to finally settle down with the reality that 2015 has come to an end. It was indeed a beautiful year. It was a wonderful shift from the graduate portfolio to the postgraduate one. It was the year when my dream of getting associated with National Law University came true, where I got an opportunity to pursue Legum Magister and hone my legal skills. My parents were delighted as I cleared the LLM entrances of most of the Universities in India and on top of that, I graduated with a 90% plus from my last attended university. We even started 2015 with a beautiful family trip to Gangtok, the capital and the largest town of the Indian state Sikkim and ended 2015 by visiting Jaipur and Jodhpur, referred to as the pink city and the blue city respectively, the two most beautiful cities of Rajasthan.

But personally speaking, climbing on these stepping stones of success did not give me much of pleasure. It is great to be good in academics and score good marks, but then, deep down I knew, I am not able to gather much of knowledge. Attending classes, giving semester exams, scoring good is not the ultimate aim of life. Moreover, I wanted to do something more than being a book worm, something, that could add to my personality and my skills. But then, I could not even complete most of the items in the to-do list prepared by me in the beginning of the year 2015. I wonder where did I go wrong? Blaming the paucity of time, as I was involved with so many other commitments will be the most common excuse anyone would make. But then, time wasted will never come back and repenting over the mistakes already committed will make me feel no better.

I don’t know how most of the people would go about in such a situation. But it is already the 9th day of the year 2016, and I am willing to make a change. I am willing to compensate for my own losses. I am willing to start all over. I am sure there would be many of you like me. DON’T REGRET PEOPLE. Just chalk out a new strategy and  a new set of beautiful agendas including the ones missed last year and the ones not executed. And never forget, we are human beings and we tend to make mistakes, but rectifying and learning from those mistakes is the most important in a human life!!

Stop Acid Attacks

It is surprising that India lags behind Pakistan and Bangladesh in terms of rules and regulations pertaining to acid attacks. The number of instances of acid attacks is rising continuously. In India, most of the attacks are targeted on the females on grounds of ego clashes with a man or rejection of a love proposal or sexual rejections.  One will be surprised that in India, property and land disputes also become a cause of acid attacks on a person. I wonder what an ego clash it is, that forces a man to depict such an inhumane behavior towards a female? Is rejection of the love proposal more painful as compared to the pain one inflicted on a lady by pouring some acids on her? What if, she is ready to marry the acid attacker and is ready to accept his proposal after the acid attack. Would the attacker accept her with a disfigured face? You loved her, right? This is the harsh reality of the world. It will be wrong on my part if i say, that acid attacks are common only in India. Today, acid attacks is one of the major crime all over the world. Even, the developed nations like United States has reported rising instances of acid attacks.

The acid attack not only disfigures a person’s face or other body parts, but it eats away their soul. The acid attack survivors suffer extensive medical, psychological and social trauma and rejection throughout their lives. Most of the victims in India belong to poor families who do not have sufficient money even for the victim’s treatment. But the truth is, most of the victims are disowned by their parents and are forced to live a secluded life. Around 90% of acid attack victims are women and most of them survive to those attacks.

In the year 2013, the Criminal Amendment Act, recognized acid attack as a crime and prescribed minimum imprisonment of 10 years which may extend to life sentence along with fine. But, legislation is not sufficient to stop such a heinous crime. More and more people have to come forward and fight for the cause. It is not the victims who has to suffer the social stigma, but the perpetrators who move freely in our nation. There has been a strict ban on the counter sale of acids in India as pronounced by the Supreme Court in 2013, but the open sale of acids stills continues even in the capital city, Delhi. The acids are freely available in the market which is regularly used by the people for cleaning their toilets. Thus, the perpetrators have easy availability of the acids. Their are NGO’s working in India to stop acid attacks, but initiatives has to be taken from each and every citizen to stop buying acids and even file a complaint to the concerned authority, if we come across a person selling acids freely. We all have a smart phone? Right? Just click a picture of the seller, so that he doesn’t disappear and file a complaint of the seller and make him popular.

 

Life is beautiful !!

Why do we worry so much? How can we make our lives peaceful and happy? Why do we feel gloomy at times, without any reason? Why are we caught in a web of contrasting thoughts at times? Why life seems to be so meaningless and useless? Will termination of life, erase all the pains? The number of questions is infinite but the end results are somewhat same. There is something or someone due to which we ain’t feeling happy.

Most of the times when we comes across such depressing and gloomy moments, we lose hope, which undoubtedly is the worst decision we take.

Firstly, what we need to understand is, that life is what we make it. It can never be the same. To achieve what we desire, we have to deal with the hurdles. We need to be strong, both physically and mentally. We need to have a positive mindset. We need to start believing in ourselves.

Secondly, we should never hold our pains. Share it with your closed ones, who may help you in finding a solution to your problems. Don’t worry, if you find yourself alone and you don’t have anyone with whom you can share your problem. Simply, write down your worries in a piece of paper. You will feel light. Try it out, it actually works.

Thirdly, instead of cribbing over something again and again, try to find a solution. Nothing is impossible in this world. Don’t forget what has always been taught to us, the word impossible also says, I-M-POSSIBLE. Still, if after putting so much of effort, things doesn’t get sorted, accept it as a part of life, because life can never be a bowl of colorful berries. But keep putting efforts. Effortless tasks gives zero result.

And lastly, have faith in yourself. The day you will lose faith from your own self, you can never make a change in your life. Every problem we come across is a part and parcel of life, which makes us sturdy to deal with the life in a better way. Believe in God and in your parents. Your parents will give the best piece of advice based on their experience. Don’t let troubles kill you. Kill the troubles.

~evillegaldiary~